I will try to answer this subject delicately; for the sake of my loving husband. I don’t mind discussing our sex life… we have children, it’s obvious that we are having relations lol… that what couples do when they are in love! But I will reserve details, no need for everyone to know it all; some things are best kept to oneself!
Lies
Many a new mother will say she is too tired, worn out or stressed to have ‘intimacies’ with her husband. She will tell him that her back hurts, she is tired, cranky or some other woe. Some might even stoop as low as the “I have a headache” bit….
Truth
Not this MOM… studies have shown that the chemicals released during sex can help relieve the pain of a headache, it helps you to stretch your limbs which would make you hurt more AND help you to sleep!
On Flirting
Romance on the other hand is a completely different subject. There can be sex without romance, and romance without sex. We flirt, smile and touch each other lovingly throughout the day; Small ways to say, I love you... I find you desirable. Is this romantic?… not really, just nice and it fulfills the need of adult attention, something shared between two adults, (a man and a woman in this case).
The Nitty Gritty
So… the technicalities of it all. YES there is sex after triplets… at least there is after OUR triplets! Albeit its often a quick moment in the middle of the night after the babies have had their 3am feeding! It still exists (thankfully!). It’s simple, turn the baby monitor off, they will survive on their own for those few minutes it takes to… er… ‘connect’. Yes, sure it’s not the same as it was before; its often rushed, but it’s a moment to relax, let go and be together as adults and husband and wife.
Is there Sex after Triplets?
The answer is YES!!
Romance?
Not so much.
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